Just kind of hanging in there:)

I'm still letting fear and doubt cloud my perceptions of my worth and the reality of the goals I've set. I really tend to let little things derail me and procrastination sets in. I've come up with the idea of using a kitchen timer to help me get started on the tough projects I need to face. If I can do something that moves one forward for 15 minutes, that's at least an accomplishment. Probably it will get the juices flowing and I'll go on it much longer. But paralysis sometimes stops me from even doing that.

I'm trying some new habits in my life. I'm running 3 miles several times a week now. That really helps. Keeping my home very tidy and clean. Getting some necessary car repairs done..they've been delayed for some time. Tonite...beginning a habit of going to sleep by 9 am and getting up at 3 or 4 am to do the hard work when I'm fresh and hopeful. This weekend I set up a reading program for scriptures and other books that inspire me. Also a simple system to organize my time. I've thought of using Steven Covey's "7 Habits" but that seems too ambitious for me, and I don't want to get discouraged. Also a program for physical fitness that includes weight training, abs work, and yoga.   On top of that, I'm working to get my divorce finalized and applying for jobs in the biggest city near me which is Edmonton.  I'm glad I'm taking time out to see my extended family at times..and be of service when I can. It's very healing. Have been reading more scriptures. I'd like to begin praying again....it's been a long time :(

As you can see.....all the toxic waste that goes along with coming out to myself has built up quite a backlog. I get a little overwhelmed thinking "What to do next????". I'm so fortunate to have a few wonderful friends who have encouraged me and advised me, gay and straight, in the church and out of it.

The only way is to do it a day at a time. And only do as much as I have strength. All of these new habits will take time and energy to really own and be an integral part of me. I just need to be patient....that's a hard job for me.

Deep breathing......and relax!!!!!!!

Brian

random bits

Not a bad day. Talked directly with a woman about a job I want to apply for in Edmonton....nice to do before sending in a resume....we had a nice chat....maybe will help. Got 3 references for my resume. Things may be moving along here :)
My bud Wayne is helping advise me on my car problems.....the repairs won't cost an arm and a leg like I was fearing. Why oh why must a person play games with rapious garage service departments who seem determined to part you of ALL your money ? Hopefully I have sidestepped that one.

Things are looking better......dealing with procrastination diminishes the fear considerably.

A new beginning !

So I've had this blog for quite awhile, but it's not been listed in the Moho Directory. I've been so inspired by a number of the blogs here, especially John Gustav-Wrathall. I've felt the strength that comes from the shared experiences and the encouragement and kindness that is so evident.
It's been about two and a half years since I came out to myself, and lots has changed since then. I accept and love myself, but I'm still afraid to make any significant moves in my life. I've been stagnant. Healthy changes are long overdue.

I'm really hoping that being part of this network will allow that to begin to happen to me. And of course, that by sharing my experiences and successes/struggles, that others can learn and grow, as I have been by them.

So hello, everybody.... I am glad to be here :))

Brian

Shaving

My progression as a gay man continues.......I bought a Phillips body groomer awhile back. This weekend I decided to try in out. Was a little apprehensive....but it is AMAZING how easily and smoothly I could remove body hair below the waist....and no pain at all! Hey I realize straight guys do this too......just that I don't think too many MY age would !